Here are some articles I wrote for my newsletters in December 2007 to 2011.
Coming Home
at Christmas with Reiki -
December 2007
In November I
travelled up to Scotland to teach a First Degree Class in Ayrshire. It is a couple of years since I last taught
there and it was a real joy to me to return.
Alec and I first started teaching in Scotland in 1992 and I have been
returning regularly ever since. I've
always felt at home there, partly perhaps because of my Scottish ancestry but
mostly because of the warmth and friendliness of the people I've met. One family in particular have taken me to
their hearts (and the feeling is mutual) so it is always something like a
homecoming when I spend time with them.
At the Reiki
Association Annual Gathering I attended recently Phyllis Furumoto spoke about
how
learning more about Reiki felt like coming home for her. I could understand her feelings as I have
also experienced, through Reiki, these homely feelings of comfort, safety
warmth and love. The experience is often
strongest when I gather with other people to share Reiki.
Those who attend
Reiki shares often comment on how at ease they feel soon after arriving and how
quickly they feel friendship with those they are sharing Reiki with. This may be because we have to allow people
into the category of 'friend' because we will be touching each other. But perhaps it is also something more: the
special quality of loving kindness that Reiki brings. A quality that many people associate with
Christmas.
As Christmas
approaches, I think of how many people are preparing to gather at home with
their families; often spending time with people they see little of during the
rest of the year. For some (like for me
returning to Ayrshire) this can be a delight, a time to re-connect and
recognise that the love has been there all the time, so it is as if we have
hardly been apart: there are just lots of good stories to share! For others being with family can be a less
happy time, whether due to unresolved difficulties from the past or clashes of
personality in the present.
Perhaps
remembering some of the qualities we experience during our Reiki sharing can
help us to have a have a happier time when we go home to our families. The qualities I am thinking of are: kindness, compassion, a willingness to listen and to accept
each person in their uniqueness, to be willing to see another's pain and offer
comfort and most of all to hold a space that love can fill, without the need
for words.
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Count Your Blessings with a Gratitude Journal -
December 2008
There have been times when I have not been grateful for the many blessings in
my life. Rather than focusing on the abundance in my life, I have focused on
how little I have, and then got stressed about it. This is not a good way to
live a happy and healthy life! Over the years, with the help of Reiki and the
Reiki Principles, I have shifted my thinking, so that I now see how blessed I
am in so many ways.
The current financial climate can be very worrying, but counting your blessings
is a very good way of reducing your stress levels I find! There is so much more
in life than money to be grateful for: such as the love of our (Reiki) family
and friends, the animals who live alongside us, or the beauty of the natural
world around us. The banks may be collapsing, but that does not affect the
excited welcome from my dog, the beauty of a tree covered in snow or the song
of a robin. Jobs may be uncertain, but what is certain is that the sun will
rise each day, giving light, warmth and the energy for plants to grow. And at a
time of celebration and gift giving, there is so much to be grateful for!
One of the little practices I use that helps me to count my blessings is to
keep a Gratitude Journal, where I write down at the end of each day 5 things
for which I am grateful in that day. They are sometimes the same thing as I
wrote the previous day (my husband Alec features very often of course!),
sometimes different. For example, I might write about the phone call from a
potential student, the scent of a rose unexpectedly still blooming in my garden
in December or the wonderful vegetables that arrive on our doorstep in our
organic veg box! By writing down these things I am giving them my attention and
appreciation, focusing my mind in a positive way.
I like to add to the experience by using a notebook that gives me pleasure to
pick up and a pen that I enjoy to write with. I have found that by doing this
each night, before I go to sleep, I end my day on a positive note, which helps
me sleep and prepares me well for the next day. I have also found that by doing
it regularly my whole attitude to life shifts and I tend to see more of the
positive in each day and count my blessings all the time.
So why not try keeping a Gratitude Journal yourself for a couple of months and
see what happens?
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Four
Aspects: Mystic Order - December
2009
The
Fourth Aspect of Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki is Mystic Order. It refers to the way the practice of Reiki helps
to meet a need for connection and community that is fundamental to human
beings.
In
modern times we have lost many of the old communities we had: the village,
street or extended family. Many people yearn for this kind of connection again.
Reiki seems to offer a new way to be in community, where our essential
connection with other human beings is acknowledged and nurtured. This is what the Aspect of Mystic Order is
about.
My
First Degree students often comment, at the end of the course, on how they feel
a strong kinship with their fellow students.
People who were strangers on the first evening often feel as if they
have been friends for years by the end of 4 days.
People
often remark on the special quality that seems to be present when Reiki people
gather together, whether it is at a Reiki share (where people give each other
Reiki treatments) or other event. I was
at a sharing group recently and there were 8 of us. We could either have used 2
Reiki couches and had 2 groups of 4 people, or we could have one big group.
This particular group of people decided they would like to receive Reiki from
lots of hands at the same time! So we had one big group. We treated in silence,
so there was little social chat. Yet by the end of the evening there was a deep
sense of connection. This was Mystic Order.
‘Mystic’
implies something mysterious that is not easy to put into words. Very often the
people I give Reiki to through treatments or teaching, find the special quality
Reiki gives them difficult to describe. One person said it is like 'a hug
inside', another said it was like a feeling of coming home. Most people have a
feeling of comfort and connection that goes beyond the physical.
When
students receive the initiation into First or Second degree, this is also a mystical
experience. They are asked to close their eyes and keep them closed for the
ceremony so they do not know exactly what is going on, yet many have an
experience that is moving on a deep level.
The
word 'order' was chosen with the idea of monks and nuns who share a common
spiritual practice and live together in community. Reiki people do not
generally live together, yet we often come together in groups, whether of just
2 for a treatment or a few for a Reiki Share or bigger numbers for gatherings
and other events. We share the common
practice of Reiki and the experiences it brings, giving us a sense of
connection.
Connection
is one of the essential qualities of a spiritual life to me and I have found
that the more I have practiced Reiki, the greater my sense of connection: with
myself, with my family and friends and with the Reiki community. Reiki has
enabled me to feel more comfortable with myself and being in a group. I used to
be shy and awkward in groups of people: Reiki has helped me to see how a
community can offer support and nurturing in a way I haven't experienced
anywhere else.
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Be Kind - December 2010
Last month a lorry damaged my car while it was parked and
didn’t stop to leave his details.
However, a kind man who witnessed the collision left his phone number
for me. The kindness of this stranger
has helped me in this unpleasant situation.
This led me to remember a story I heard once:
There was once a great guru who many people had gathered to
hear. It was said that he would be
giving a great teaching that day. The
audience waited in eager anticipation.
The guru walked onto the stage, sat down and looked at them all. After a long silence he said: “Be kind.” And
walked off the stage!
Reiki, I have found, has had much to teach me about being
kind. Many people learn Reiki in order
to be able to help their family and friends or their animals. Giving your time and presence through gentle
touch to someone in need of help is a lovely act of kindness. It is also kindness to give Reiki to
yourself.
Stress often leads to unkindness. I’ve noticed when driving in Birmingham, for
example, that the traffic really keeps moving thanks to the kindness of some
drivers, letting others out at junctions.
When I am stressed, I often feel as if I don’t have time to pause and do
something that would be a kindness.
Sometimes I’m so busy I don’t even have time to think of it! However, over the years I’ve found that Reiki
has helped me to slow down so that I have the space to notice where I have an
opportunity for an act of kindness.
We can be kind to ourselves by receiving a Reiki treatment:
receiving Reiki helps us to slow down, becoming more balanced and
healthier. A calm and happy person is
more of an asset to those around us, so it really is a kindness to everyone to
live that way! If we receive Reiki from
someone else, we are also being kind to the person giving the treatment as we
give them the opportunity to help us and also to receive whatever we give them
in exchange for the treatment.
Kindness to ourselves can be the most difficult of
all. We often judge ourselves more
harshly than we would judge anyone else!
Giving ourselves a Reiki treatment each day, which I encourage all my
students to do, is a daily practice of kindness towards ourselves.
I have often been touched by the kindness of people who have
learned Reiki. I have found that there
is great kindness among the Reiki Sharing Groups for example. As they get to know each other they offer
support, but even as strangers there is always a feeling of wanting to help
each other with Reiki. This also often
goes beyond the Reiki Share evening, such as the way one of the students
recently asked for support during a very stressful time when she was doing an
important exam. She received distant and
hands-on Reiki from fellow students who were only too pleased to help. Happily (and perhaps because she knew so many
friends were thinking of her kindly) she passed!
I am also very grateful for the kindness of my students in
their willingness to support me. I often
received lovely replies to my e-mail messages – even if it is to say they are
unable to attend a workshop I’m offering I appreciate their kindness in taking
time to respond.
December, with Christmas and other holidays, can often be a
stressful time. One antidote may be to
remember this teaching and be kind to yourself and those around you.
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Giving
and Receiving -
December 2011
With Christmas approaching, many of us are
thinking about the gifts we will be giving or receiving. The practice of Reiki
teaches us that what will bring good health and happiness is balance, which
includes the balance of exchange.
Frequently
people who are drawn to learning Reiki are those who feel more comfortable
giving than receiving, helping others but reluctant to receive help themselves.
This can work for a while, but is an imbalance that can ultimately lead to
exhaustion or feelings of resentment. To achieve healthy balance these people
need to learn how to receive and to do so graciously.
Other
people are happy to receive without giving anything in return, which is also an
unhealthy imbalance. This often stems from taking things for granted, or lack
of awareness of the true value of what is being given. This can lead to
feelings of resentment and judgment when the gift is felt to be lacking. This
feeling of lack is an imbalance that can create discomfort and unhappiness.
What helps people with this imbalance is to develop a sense of gratitude.
What
can also happen when we give or receive is that we have some agenda attached to
it. For example, we may give in order to be liked more, or give a large gift in
the hope that we this will raise our status in the mind of the receiver. On the
other hand, we may feel that if we give a gift of lower value we will be seen negatively.
We are also encouraged at this time of year to look for the 'perfect gift' the
one that will please the other most and of course the advertisers try to get us
to believe that the more we spend the better, which if we believe them can lead
to overspending (financial imbalance) or feeling inadequate, both of which are
stressful and unhealthy.
There
can also be expectations about what gifts we will receive. The value or nature
of the gift is often seen as a measure of that person's valuing of us. Looking
for a particular outcome when giving or receiving can lead to disappointment
and also placing value where it doesn't belong. We have a natural instinct that
calls our attention to the imbalance of this and the stress that it causes.
When
there is balance, the giving of gifts can be a real pleasure and receiving can
be a joy. To be able to
give and receive without attachment is what brings true
happiness and the practice of Reiki gives us an opportunity to explore this. We
are encouraged to give Reiki treatments unconditionally – without looking for a
particular outcome, because Reiki will help the person however they most need
it on that day. We are also encouraged to practice exchange, receiving
something in return for the Reiki treatment we have given or giving in return
for the treatment we have received, which maintains the balance between us.
So my
wish for you this festive season is one I have learned through my Reiki
practice: may you give graciously and receive with gratitude. May this be a
practice you continue to explore in coming year and may it bring you good
health, peace and happiness.
